“I can” is not enough

Another blog in the series “Big, Little Words”

Much has been written about the “perfect phrase”, the “trick” or a “hook” to create a habit as a personal goal. The promise is that achieving some goal will make you successful. But there is a catch. . .

Success and achievement both start from your “inside”. A common line is: “There are two kinds of people. Those who say, “they can” and those who say, “they can’t”. And both are correct. But life is not a simple binary choice. Whether you can or you can’t is something to be determined after you “try”. But then you have heard:

“TRY doesn’t count.” Just think, what is often said by the person who finishes last? “Well. I tried.” I really tried? I tried my best. No matter how hard you “tried”, if you finished last, you FINISHED LAST.

Therefore, success or achievement requires a starting commitment of “I MUST”. Anything less than “I must” becomes an excuse to not achieve success. From deep inside, you must realize that after musing about what you can do, or what you want to do, you MUST pick THAT to which you are committed to doing and then take action. Then accept the reality that you will either reach your “goal” or you will fail. Then you will need to decide whether to “try again” or leave “it” in the dust. When you can move on to your next “I MUST”, you will realize that failure is not always defeat.

The lesson: Do not start anything which you do not need to finish.

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Little, Big WORDS

Language is our window into reality, but language is not our reality.

Little words can make a big difference in what we see. For example, how often do you see “FREE”? To understand the separation of “language” and “reality”, it may be helpful to understand the sources of the language we often use without thinking.

You’ve probably heard the phrase, “There’s no such thing as a free lunch.” ? The source of that phrase is “Stranger in a Strange Land”, by Robert Heinlein. The story of the book is set in a world after a nuclear holocaust. It comes from a time when school children were being conditioned to duck under their desks when they heard a warning siren. Looking back, it is apparent to see the foolishness of thinking a “school desk” would be protection from an atomic bomb. But that was the mentality of the 1950’s in America.

A summary of the situation: A young girl encounters an older man, wearing a protective suit (for radiation) in a wasteland similar to the scene of Hiroshima after the first atomic bomb was dropped. She asked if he could share anything to eat and he replied, “There’s no such thing as a free lunch.” The details reveal a small hole in his suit, which had been patched with something like duct tape. It is left to the reader to realize that the price the man had paid for that suit was to kill the person who had been wearing the suit. It was stories such as this that led a generation to fear a nuclear holocaust as the end of humanity.

Today’s advertising abuses the word “FREE”. How many offers have you heard for a FREE BOOK? The catch (and there are a couple) is that you are expected to pay the “shipping and handling”. The reality is that you probably also pay their actual cost of the book, which gives them your email address and credit card account at no cost to them. When you realize that listing companies often pay in excess of $25 for active leads, you can see what a good deal this is for them. For example, last week I clicked on a link about refinancing my home. So far, I have received FOUR follow up phone calls offering to refinance my home. None of them expressed an interest in going to work for me. 🙂

Finally, the first REAL lesson in economics is this: The “government” has NO money. It only has what it has first taken from someone else. The further misunderstanding is that when the “government seizes that money” (taxation and fees), it deducts a healthy administrative charge. While some states receive as much as $1.27 for every dollar they send to Washington, other states receive as little at $0.77. What is the rate for your state. For more information, you may want to check out http://www.OpenTheBooks.org.

Ken@wishbudranch.com

Minimum, Minimum – Bah, Humbug!

Looking back, I suppose my “teacher burn-out” in my educational career began with the fad of Minimum Competency Standards. Although I was not able to speak eloquently of my distrust of the concept at the time, in retrospect I can now understand that seed of displeasure which lurked within me.

 

True learning does not come from achieving minimum standards; true learning is measured by that which is beyond the minimum. After all, what credit should be given to that person who only does what everybody else does? What person is recognized as a scholar, who knows only what everybody else knows? Heroes are those who go beyond the minimums; heroes are those who do those things which most other people will not do. Scholars are those who already know what others have not yet learned.

 

It is not enough for a student to gain learning by study. True learning comes from action which produces results. Sometimes this can be called experience. Not all action produces positive results, but even learning which comes from negative consequences can be a positive outcome.

 

In today’s culture, far too many people have accepted “Minimum Standards” as their personal goals. The very idea that a “Minimum Wage” should be a “Living Wage” is an idea that comes from a “Socialistic Perspective”. It is a leveling of humanity in which everybody shares the same level of misery. In recent years, the Chinese government has expressed a concern about the “lack of creativity and invention” by its younger population. Perhaps it sounds too simple to attribute such a lack of creativity and invention to a lack of a need to do better than the minimum, or to contribute more than the minimum. The mantra of Communist/Socialist: “From each according to his ability; to each according to his needs.”

 

Perhaps, the level of invention, or lack thereof, may be attributed to a felt need to stand out. When first stated, the concern that all people have a right to have their “needs” met by society sounds like an irrefutable statement of compassion. However, the human condition allows people to become comfortable at their “minimum level”. At the level of the cave dweller it becomes: “If I am warm, I can sleep; I don’t need to gather more wood for my fire.” Problems arise when the cave dweller awakes to find his fire is low and a storm is raging outside the cave. The cave dweller sees that the easiest source of more wood to be the supply that his neighbor brought in before the storm. The petty crime of stealing a twig becomes a war to decide who gets the woodpile.

 

And so it is in America today. America has groups of people who demand an increase in the minimum wage without considering any increase in the “value of the labor”. This is the miracle of “Capitalism”. “Build a better mousetrap and the world will beat a pathway to your door.” For proof, look at the chemical company which realized the limitations of mousetraps and then created “mouse poison.” That company, incidentally, is now selling that patented chemical to the medical community as a “blood thinner”.

 

Since I have been distracted, I would invite any reader to provide a concluding paragraph to this post.aavelken

One More Thing

One More Thing

From my days as a new insurance agent, I recall a chat with one of the “top producers”. My question, “Looking back to your first 3 or 4 months in the business, what did you do differently from those who started at the same time but are no longer in the business?”

His answer, “At the end of the day, I would do ONE MORE THING.”

My response, “Huh”

The clarification, “Do you know how at the end of the day, everybody knows that it’s the end of the day? Maybe it’s when the bell sounds or the whistle blows. Maybe it’s when the clock reaches a certain time or the sun goes down. Maybe it’s when the last dishes are washed. But at some point, people mentally shut down intending to do NOT ONE MORE THING. That’s when I would force myself to do ONE MORE THING. I would make one more phone call, write one more letter, complete some form on my desk, read something technical, file the accumulation of stuff on my desktop. When others quit, I did one more thing and that has become a habit.”

So last night I tried it. As I was making my list for today, instead of writing something on my list, I wrote three checks and a letter — two items that never even got to my list of tasks. This morning, when I walked into my office, I thought, “Gee, if, for the last month, I had been doing what I did last night, there would be 30 things that I should do that don’t need to be done today.”

For those that don’t get it yet: Perhaps making long lists is really a waste of time, perhaps it is really your way to get out of doing something. When you are making those comprehensive lists of things that need to be done, you are actually avoiding doing something. Would it be better to (1) identify only three things that could be done, (2) identify which of the three is most important for you to do right now–but according to your long term goals, (3) do it, (4) repeat number 1? Then at the end of the day, when your mind is packed and ready to go on vacation, promise your mind the vacation if it will just stick around to do ONE MORE THING.

#OneMoreThingaavelken